Heart breaks happen!
It sure does. Sometimes, we love people on trust as though our hearts can never get crushed. After all, no one enters into a relationship with the expectation that his/her heart should be bitterly pounced upon.
We vouch for their unflinching love and reassuring words that our hearts are safe in their arms. We give out our best in the process to keep love exciting, desirable and fun-filled.
Soon, the music gradually gets wilder and unpleasant,the language of love slowly changes and before long, the rising tides of misunderstanding begin to spill shaky waves into the middle of the love sea.
Have you ever felt a hurting blow, probably some days into when you just concluded that you have found someone whom you can trust, someone whose words were sweeter than chocolate, someone who shares in your emotional and spiritual needs, and someone who has become a part of your life and occupies the softest portion of your heart? Sooner, the song of love gradually fades away and the sounding of your name to his ears soon creates a negative impact like that of a deadly poison on an innocent soul, spilling bitter venom on his mind. How do you handle the breaking news: "it is over between us"? It probably freezes like one of your worst winter moments, it hurts like a deadly snake bite, it cripples like an arrow from an undaunted Archer, it unsettles precious sleep like insomnia, and it denies appetite like unexpected sad news.
Well, before I go far, can I give you something to think about?
It is scientifically proven that men break up relationships easily for cases of sexual infidelity; women consider breakup as a necessary option after enduring hard emotional cheating. In either case, it can be seen that relationships dominated by cruelty, molestation, attack on self image and respect easily suffer breakup.
While some people turn to negative addictions just to solve the problem of having to accept that breakups had happened to them and others are given to deep emotional cracks, it is fully possible to manage the situation and come out stronger. For every time I have had an opportunity to express myself on this subject, I smell thick depression; sense a sound of deep rejection, imagine fear of ridicule and envisage the plague of mental attack.
I will now begin to address this subject. Please read on!
- Strive to avoid a break up: Lasting bonds hurt when broken. When relationships are broken, wounds are created. Relationships are designed for complementary purposes. Soak your conviction in this reality. Enter into a relationship with the capacity to contribute meaningfully towards solving a problem affecting your partner. It's sad to say that many people enter into relationships not really knowing what they want out of it. They just want to feel good like others. They soon become used in the process and ultimately relieved when the guy suddenly becomes tired. To deal with heartbreak, the best remedy is to avoid it.Do not surrender your heart to be loved by someone you can't trust. Don't love for the wrong reasons. "One" heart is too precious to be surrendered for cruelty in the name of love. See the inevitability of break up hiding under a suspicious character and run away before you could even say, "baby, I love you too" or, "I will think about your proposal". This is simple: "you can see the end of most relationships from how they started, avoid them long before they get you trapped, drained, twisted and broken.
- Accept it: For those that are already trapped, accept the reality that breakup had occurred. I have discovered that most relationships break not because the person that received the breaking news contributed to the process. Most of those relationships didn't need to go far in the first place. I quite understand how you feel like when you have lost your place in his arms especially when you have been in the relationship for years and have created an impression in the heart of your friends that you have gotten him. Well, to be healed, begin by accepting that you have been hurt and that you may necessarily not have been the cause of it.
- Refuse to remain in the past: This is as possible as the pains you feel when you suddenly strike the chords of some romantic moments.you probably shared together in the past. Have you noticed that for every time you scratch a wound, it does not heal? You can recover from break ups if you can shut down the records of past feelings, locking up the channels through which your emotions take you backwards and resisting the attempt to flow along with the tricks of your mind towards getting drowned in it. It is a big plague to tie your feelings to someone who is probably having his freedom with someone else, having shattered your heart.
- Avoid idle time: Idleness stirs up different facets of past memory. It in turn has the capacity to wake up a long lost feeling. It makes you miss a moment that you can’t recover hence, trapped in emotional cramps. Most of all, relationships are necessary for association. They cut down boredom. In the event of a relationship breakup, you can channel your time and energy to work, reading, hobbies, sports, craft, writing. The aim is to get your mind attached to a new thing and to build a positive flow along a new thought pattern. Idleness can suggest an invitation to negative behaviours and addiction which in turn can affect your life negatively. Just get productive. Gather the pieces of your heart and keep moving. The next person interested in you is waiting to meet you better and smiling.
- Evaluate yourself: This is mostly essential in the case where you contributed to the breakup. Have a sincere judgement of yourself. This can help you avoid a repeated mistake in your next relationship. No breakup is without a lesson. Inside the emotional trouble is another vital lesson to be embraced. Don't close your eyes to the lessons thus, reducing your life to your predicament. By way of counsel: "do not avoid a good lesson even from some sad experiences you induced". A relationship breakup is an opportunity to learn your lesson, toughen up, set your eyes on new decisions and love again.
- Loosen up: I have long discovered that happiness is a choice and that sometimes; it takes a courageous decision to choose to remain happy despite opposing circumstances. Don't lock up your heart from people who can give you the best of love just because someone broke it in the past. Don't be afraid of letting out your heart again to love or to be loved.
- Confide in a counselor: Don't bear alone what you can share. When a problem is shared, it is some way solved. A lonely life can be destructive. A life without a counselor can be unsafe. Suicide attempts as a result of breakup can be avoided. Mental stress can be handled. Depression can be cured. Wrong perception and undue generalization can be avoided. Find a reliable counselor. A counselor would bring wisdom into the situation which can in turn reduce pains to pleasure.Summarily, all men are not the same. All ladies are not the same. Whenheartbreak becomes the reality, see in it an opportunity for advancement. Feel the pains but refuse to be trapped. In a matter of time, the pains would have long disappeared but you will remain- stronger and stronger, better and better, and you would look back to appreciate the role that the one-time breaking news played in shaping your life.
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