The last time I checked, I noticed that on daily basis, an increasing mass of people start off relationships. Majority in the number are novices. Their reasons or motives for desiring a relationship are sometimes substandard. More than this, others who suddenly meet with the fires and pressure of a relationship desire to quit.
What a world!
It is undoubtedly easier to enter into a relationship than it is to remain in a relationship. My goal in this article is to point out how to spot out a danger zone and save your future from a heart break.
As a writer and public speaker, I have done more work on the subject: "how do I know if a guy or a girl truly loves me?" There are increasing questions on how one can find out if his or her relationship will work. Well, while the world is gradually turning up-side-down, it is still possible and safer to find out if your so called relationship is another scam or not.
Are you ready to read on? then, I am right here for you. Let's find out some striking features of a risky relationship.
- A risky relationship runs on a divided attention.
Every relationship attends to something, whether the needs are true or not; whether they are genuine or selfish. Most of the needs are immediate while others are long term or ultimate. When a relationship places more focus and attention on the immediate at the expense of the ultimate, it's genuineness is certainly in doubt. Let me further add flesh to this. There are people who don't care about building a future with you. Their assignment is to feed on what you have and would give for free. They exert their energy on their mission while trying to behave well in order to create a good impression around you. They press hard on you around those areas that will satisfy their interest till you can give in to them at will. These are parasites and they must be resisted. They talk more about what will benefit them in the relationship whether it hurts you or not. They stick to what will give them pleasure and not on what will move the relationship forward.
- A risky relationship will hide its intentions towards you.
A lady reading this point might find it interesting. Many guys can keep a lady for long without an assurance that they will end up marrying them. They rather flirt around town. Their partners are mere tools of sexual gratification. That's deceptive. Serious relationships are known by serious intentions which are clearly defined. Until defined, it will be difficult to explain a relationship. The beginning of a complicated relationship is a complicated expression of intention. Ask your guy what his intentions are towards you; if he still beats about the bush, you are not safe around him.
- A risky relationship will avoid introduction to friends and family.
Lasting relationships are supported by extended connections. Your partner should feel excited about every opportunity to know you deeper. By extension, he or she should not turn down any opportunity and invitation to know some important persons in your life. This is the key to accountability. A relationship will have a future when it broadens in connection. This is as safe as the future of the relationship. Should anything go bad, you can track him/her to a family member or to his/her trusted friend.
- A risky relationship avoids meetings.
Does your partner have an address? How free are you to visit him or her at will? More than how you met your partner is when the last time you met your partner in person was. It is not how you met your partner that determines the success of a relationship. Distant relationships are not left out of this. A story was told of a guy who proposed to a lady in one town. Giving her the hope of marriage, he still went about proposing to different ladies from place to place. Certainly, someone suffered for this when the truth came out. Some ladies are victims of failed promises after a guy who proposed marriage to them jetted out of the country.
Additionally, today's generation has been digitally reduced to a smart phone and on daily basis, people are building trust and initiating marital relationships on social media. This is not only risky, it is inappropriate. You can build friendship on social media but a serious relationship is not an online transaction. Download it out of Facebook and get serious. This is how I know that to break some persons' heart is very easy. The only step to take is to change your Sim card when you are done toiling with their emotions. A serious relationship will work out a meeting plan and sees to it.
- A risky relationship hides identity.
A relationship success depends largely on the integrity of the persons involved. When two partners have contrasting values and belief systems, it is obvious that they are not looking at something lasting. Lasting relationships are cultured on the pedestal of singleness of focus, shared values and unity of belief system. Beware of a partner who keeps essential information or vital issues concerning his/her life in secrecy. Beware of a partner who is weary of openness. If you can't know him, you can't last with him. A lady once wrote me. From my findings, she had relocated to a guy's apartment; a guy she barely knew anything about. Why won't she be a victim of molestation?
Summarily, don't place your heart where it least matters. Spot out a scam and be on alert. Don't surrender to a broken heart when you can work out an enviable relationship.
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