Your Relationship Making You Cry? Here is What You Should Do
Having a relationship is like a treat, but sometimes it turns out that the truth is not that delicious. If you are in a relationship that makes you cry a lot then it’s time to give serious thoughts to your relationship. Actually living with someone whom you love and admire may not allow you think rationally at the start of the relationship. You want to spend your whole life with that person because you feel affection for each other and share bodily fluids. But after some time you realize that you are not fulfilled entirely and you have been shedding tears a lot because your partner is not giving you enough of other needs like attention, time, honesty, support, commitment, and security. This situation is very common and I know lots of couples who started very well but then drift apart just due to their lack of emotional interest in each other.
A few weeks ago one of my friends was going through the same state. Her partner was not fulfilling her emotional needs, although he was more than enough to please her all physical need, maybe that’s why she took a long a time to make the decision. Yes, physical intimacy is very crucial for every relationship, especially at the beginning of it, but ultimately it’s the emotional intimacy that keeps the relationship alive for a life long time. So if you are not completely satisfied with your relationship, then follow the two-step policy to get out of the obfuscated situation. My friend also followed this two-step policy and successfully got out of the bewildering condition without any regrets or heartbreak. So I decided to share that amazing policy with my readers so that they can
Step:1 - Think It Through
First of all you have to analyze your situation meticulously; maybe it is you who are not letting his partner give his 100%. It happens a lot, sometimes one partner doesn't get very emotional because he thinks that the other partner will not like it or consider it too childish. You have to give your partner a fair chance to be emotionally intimate. Actually, in our society is more concerned about physical pleasure, therefore, most of us consider poignant gestures useless. If you have given enough chance to your partner, but still not getting any positive result then either your partner does not understand your needs or he doesn’t know how to fulfill them. Now you have to decide whether emotional needs like attention, time, understanding, commitment and honesty are important to you or your partner is really worth it to live without fulfilling all these needs. Take your time to take this decision because you have to live with it. There are some cases in which people decided to live with their stone cold partners just because of the kids and family reputation, but their life is nothing more than a body taking breaths to provide oxygen to the blood. Before making a final decision, remember that life is short and you can’t give, the better part of your life to someone who is not considerate about the real you. The physical body depletes with time, what will happen when your beauty fades away with time? There will be a time when you need someone to understand your emotions. So, whatever you decide to put your long-term pleasures in front of temporary delights after all you build a relationship to spend whole life with a smile.
Step:2 - Give Yourself some Worth
After analyzing your whole situation next step is to find out what you think about yourself. No one is going to respect your emotions if you don’t respect them. You must raise your standard to get ultimate satisfaction in a relationship. Yes, you can’t get a perfect partner because every one has some defects but it does not mean that you can’t get a nearly perfect partner. There are lots of people who have enough of all qualities like honesty, faithfulness, commitment, dignity, etc to become a loving partner. If you believe that you can’t find a perfect match for you then it mean you don’t have enough confidence in you, you don’t believe in yourself. You have to leave this attitude for the love of God. You have to realize that you are a human being and you are important too.
In point of fact, we are living in a society where the competition to find a partner is very tough therefore we went for the first option we see. Maybe you are lucky enough to find the love of your life at first try, but it does not happen a lot. You have to give sufficient time to find a good match for you. Don’t overstretch this period, but stretch it enough to examine every aspect of your potential partner. Keep it in mind that you are beautiful and you will find a “the one” for you. Being confident does not mean that you have to be arrogant and egocentric, but it means you have to be sure about your life goals. You should be sure about what you really want in a relationship and what you can give in return. Don’t commit to those things that you can give easily. To find an ideal match you should only demand as much as you can give in a relationship.
If you are stuck in a bad relationship due to your impulsive decisions, then reverse your bad decision with a good one. Everyone makes bad decisions, but it does not imply that you have to punish yourself for the rest of your life. Get out of your dire commitments and make a new start; you deserve every chance to live a better life with a better person. The relationship is a two-way street, you have to give respect, time and honestly to your partner in order to get them back. The only hurdle between you and happiness is your lethargy, be confident and fetch some contentment for yourself.
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