WHY GUYS DUMP THEIR GIRLFRIENDS
Victims of these scenarios crave to find the reasons, but they never do because they actually don’t know who guys are. It is a well known fact that most guys play games in relationships and girls are naturally emotional and complex beings; sometimes difficult to understand and please. Dumping in any case could be as a result of issues that might still be resolved with mutual understanding. Wastes and garbage are useless materials that should be dumped. Now what could result to ladies being dumped by their boyfriends? How can a girlfriend today be an ex tomorrow? Could it be the fault of the girl, or the guy?
At early stages, guys are usually advised to stay away from having sexual relationships or keeping a girlfriend, as ladies are pretty and can be very distracting and manipulative. Girls on the other hand are advised to beware of guys tricks and games. They however tend to go against this advice and go into a relationship with the opposite sex at early stage. An immature guy or a lady could be a victim of several unsuccessful relationships. A girl can be pretty, sexy and gorgeous yet inexperienced and naïve in terms of building and keeping a relationship. Since guys fall in love with what they see, and ladies fall in love they tend to forget that relationships is far from that and then the issue of dumping and being dumped arises. A girl is matured when she is able to control her emotions and differentiate between love and infatuation.
However, infatuation is sometimes mistaken for love and girls end up going into a relationship with guys who do not truly love them. If a girl is matured, she would fully understand the concept of love and know when she feel infatuation. But as a result of immaturity, lack of experience and naivety, she goes a long way with the delusion of being loved and the confusion that arises when she’s finally dumped. Guys enjoy games and playing with feelings is what they are known to do the best.
However, even the existence of good guys make little difference in the world of relationship. Because girls come out with the conception that “all guys are the same”. Trust and commitment are lost in a situation whereby guys play and girls don’t trust because most guys love flirting and just want to have fun, they easily tend to get tired of being with the same girl all the time. Guys flirt, but men seek a serious relationship. As long as guys are still guys, dumping wouldn’t go into exile.
Nevertheless, some girls have completely misinterpreted the true meaning of values and virtues and has thrown decency into the winds. Therefore, guys still have the conception that most girls are cheap and with this mindset, they begin to feel jealous when other guys approach their girlfriend, they feel the girl could easily leave them for another guy. Insecurity begin to creep in and this becomes unhealthy for the relationship. But assuming the morals can be maintain by girls. Perhaps, the rate of dumping would be less. For centuries perhaps, relationship matters have become the” talk of the day”. It seems like the more the “ I love you” led to relationships, the more the break-ups occurred. In most cases guys are seen to be the cause of such ordeal but I want to list out some factors explanatorily to make us aware of the faults that there is more to guys “ dumping girls’’ than we actually know.
The issue of trust: yes, this may sound bizarre but most girls who step into a relationship doesn’t even know how to trust their man. It’s true that men can be annoyingly flirtatious, but ladies you gotta give your man an average deal of trust. Guys hate it when their women nag, accusing them of sleeping around with every ”Jessica and Janet’’. Whether he is a real casanova or not, putting it to his face on a daily basis rather than trying to understand and trust him still, could just earn you a ticket out of his heart for good.
The issue of inferiority complex: sincerely, guys get scared easily of dating a woman who is more successful than them in almost all ramifications. Most of the time, the women acts in a way that depicts their superiority, especially by reminding them constantly whenever they get caught up in an argument or that she has so many qualifications and should he misbehave, she has so many suitors at her beck and call. Ladies keep on reminding him about this and he might make things easy for you by setting you free to explore your many suitors.
Laziness: “Ludicrous”. In fact I can say categorically that guys love their women to be hard working. Keep on vesting him and sleep like a log of wood, not making attempt to cook and a whole lot more. You would certainly help him see reason early to decide between letting you go or have feelings in his heart to finance accommodating a house help in the future after marriage probably. We all know the choice he is going to make so be wise ladies.
The act of desperation: men are proud by nature, they have their ego to protect and they enjoy fishing than be fished. In other words, they hate it when ladies get desperate over them. Yes, it’s good to love your man ladies, but the moment you start doing things out of desperation, going extra mile by giving much attention to his friends probably his best pal to ensure you are a guaranteed ticket for marriage, the more desperate you appear might leave him with no option but to let go.
Desperation also leads us to the awareness of the fact that in reality, most girls force their way into their supposed partner’s life. How? It is of a common knowledge that society rarely frowns at a lady working up to a man to tell him she loves him and wants them to be in a relationship. The act is of bravery and should not be shunning at by society because we are in the” 21st century”, the jet age. Gone are those days when ladies wait for the man to make their first move. Truth is in the end; such relationships end as fast as they kicked off. So let guys do the admiring and proposing not you, girl ok.
Circumstances: on rare occasions, guys do this dumping act is not because they don’t love or cherish their woman and wish never to let go but sometimes circumstantial limitation results in the guy calling “QUITS”
Guys have dumped, are still dumping and will probably dump still. But it remains that no matter how brutally or gently he tells you he wants out of the relationships, there is a reason whether subtle or major for doing so.
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