Long term relationship can be taken to mean that one is ready to commit him or herself to a person for a long time, and that one has found someone he or she want to have a future with. It doesn't mean necessarily that one is going to get married or anything, but that one is currently contented in a relationship.
Some years back, boys met girls at a club, the office, church or through close friends. Today, many homegrown love stories are becoming nostalgic relics of the past. As it becomes more difficult to fit socializing time into our busy lives, singles are looking further afield for relationship and romance. Facebook flings, email liaisons, and flirtations sparked during vacations or business trips it’s common to know someone in the throes of the agony and ecstasy that only a long-distance affair can bring. But are these exhilarating romances bad?
At first glance, a long-distance relationship appears full of excitement, but the stress of dealing with the unknown, and putting one’s life on hold until you’re together again can cause all sorts of health upsets, emotionally, psychologically and physically for example Most are pretty anxious to get together. Some other perceived bad effects include;
Lying
Lying habitually is bad for any relationship, due to distance many of the partners find themselves lying. If you catch your partner frequently lying to other people (like their boss, friends and/or family), that's just as much a cause for concern as catching them lying to you. Frequent lying is a habit, and it's also a symptom of a much deeper problem. Habitual liars are usually deflecting responsibility for their own actions when they lie, telling you whatever you want to hear just to get what they want. This is not normal in a long-term (or short-term) relationship.
Cheating
Some couples have open relationships; this item isn't about them. Some monogamous couples can work through the pain caused by infidelity and cheating and come out happier and stronger than ever; if a partner cheats, and decide to work through things, that's great. But whether it's emotional or physical cheating, know that one is no way obligated to put up with cheating just because one has been with the partner for a long time even if it was an isolated incident. Distance can sour these relationships when even one missed phone call sets off all sorts of suspicion and worry of cheating partners. As a result, trust and commitment issues grow unchecked, and unhealthy obsessive behavior ‘such as leaving repetitive phone messages ’can be unleashed and dominates many of long relationships causing emotional and psychological pain in partners.
Being Treated Like Their Maid/Cook/Bank
In long-term relationships, it's normal and healthy to help one another out. If you're already out and your partner texts you, "Can you pick up my prescription from the pharmacy?" that's OK. If you get back from running errands and your partner has washed a load of your dirty clothes, that's great, too. But what's not so great is when your partner leaves their messes for you to clean up or constantly blows off their job because they know you'll foot the grocery bill if you have to.
It's not normal for one member of the relationship to be shouldering the majority of the chores, expenses, and responsibilities. Every couple divides household responsibilities up according to each partner's strengths and abilities, but many a times this is what’s happening in long term relationships.
Bad Sex
Long-term relationships have their off nights, experiencing chronic bad sex with partner because they have become selfish and lazy to care about your pleasure. Just because you guys have been with each other for a while now doesn't mean your partner should just stop caring about whether sex is fun, comfortable and enjoyable for you but this is major issue in long term.
Unreasonable Anger
Couples get mad sometimes and the longer you're with someone, the more comfortable one is expected to become with being honest about when one is pissed off. Focusing irrational anger on one’s partner isn't normal, whether have been together five days or five years. It's not safe, either. But many a time’s long-term relationships are characterized by this.
Not Supporting Your Ambitions
Couples in long-term relationships are supposed to be part of the same team. one should never put up with someone who doesn't support ones dreams and ambitions, whether they actively discouraging one from pursuing ones goals or just don't show any interest in celebrating ones success. But this is not the case in many long-term relationships as people tend to be tired especially for unsuccessful dreams and ambitions.
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